One major theme yesterday at NO was manipulation and the point was made that EVERYONE manipulates others to a greater or lesser extent to get what they want.
It’s not a loaded word in itself, only in the loading people wish to apply to it. For example, someone oft accused of being manipulative will be far more sensitive to the word than someone who does subtly manipulate, such as a blogger, but doesn’t think he is being manipulative.
Babies manipulate with screams and smiles, women are mistresses of the art, stemming from disempowered days when that was the way to get ahead, men do it through lobby groups, feminists do it and when empowered, then go about secreting themselves in spare university rooms and rewriting history in the new political correctness.
Everyone manipulates but of course, if you’re doing it for nefarious purposes – nefarious itself a load term – then you must charge manipulation or its big brother, abuse of the other party, whilst painting yourself whiter than white.…