Women are socialized differently and they can often “get away with murder”. The way they’re brought up, the expectations, the dress code, association of colours with gender and so on all serves to form a woman’s mind.
An article by Suzy Vanhoose, in Associated Content, Business and Finance, put the negative side of this:
Another problem that is becoming rampant is that women can say just about anything they want and an innocent man will have to spend nightmarish months going through a complicated court system just to prove his innocence.
Many times he will have his family ripped away from him while lawyers hash out his fate. Let a woman get angry at her husband and all she must do is produce a bruise and that man is ruined. Let a girl decide she didn’t enjoy her night with her boyfriend and suddenly she has been raped.
Watch a young lady hatch a plan to get her school principle in trouble for “sexual harrassment” and ruin his career. Even if the men in these cases are proven innocent, their jobs and lives are still scarred for life.
A personal anecdote here. At the club I used to be part of, a new law came in that women had to be admitted and I’ll be honest – I was dead against it. I had a lady’s ticket as well as my badge and if I wanted to take a lady, I could. But this was riding over the top of a 20 year waiting list and giving instant membership to the women.
Not only that but the dress codes were different. One day in summer I forgot my jacket and was stopped at the door in shirtsleeves and tie. They had to find a jacket for me to wear. When I got in there, all the men were in jackets, of course but many of the new women were in denim and looking anything but “smart casual”. One rule for one ….
It is true that women do not have the same strictures as men as far as business dress is concerned. They can get all creative, even in a business jacket and accessories whereas one grey-suited man is much the same as the next. It’s a social stricture, along with many other social strictures, some of which oppress women and some of which let them make their own rules.
It comes into what men allow. An advert for a beer many years ago had a man who had committed some unspecified transgression sitting on a divan and a Sophia Loren type stormed in, shouting and throwing things at him, he jumped out of the window to escape, she threw everything out of the window after him, including his computer [why do women not respect technology, especially keyboards?] and the next scene shows them having made up and everything luvvy duvvy again.
There is no doubt that men have socialized women into believing theat they can do or say anything they like, taking no responsibility for what they do or say and the man just accepts it. I’ve done it many times. My gf shrieked at me, kicked and punched and I just held her until she calmed down. Twenty minutes later, having addressed the issue, it was all roses again. Another time she trashed my flat.
On the other hand, if a man tried that on, imagine the social pressure on him.
An article by Dan Cassino, in the Arizona Daily, a male and therefore suspect in writing on this topic, explained that it is a bodily disorder which causes women’s madness:
That disorder is pre-menstrual dysphoric disorder, and, by sheer coincidence, it was discovered by drug companies just as they invented a cure for it.
Now before jumping on what he said, his article was actually saying the opposite – that it’s not that women are mad but that pharmaceutical companies would like them to be seen to have disorders:
According to the manufacturer, the new drug, Sarafem, which comes in little purple and pink pills that are downright cute, is intended to relieve intense mood and physical disorders. These disorders, associated with the onset of a woman’s menstrual period, can lead to significant problems that can interfere with work and social situations.
All of this is wonderful, of course, but the best is yet to come. See, Sarafem isn’t actually a new drug at all. It’s just Prozac, now in female-oriented packaging. The drug companies didn’t even respect us enough to create a new drug to cure their new disease. They just created a new disease they could treat with an existing product.
Thanks to drug companies like Eli Lilly, it is becoming increasingly obvious that anything anyone does is the result of some sort of psychological disorder.
Nobody is just shy anymore; they all have social anxiety disorder, treatable with Paxil. People aren’t sad after Christmas because they didn’t get the gold-plated Parcheesi set they wanted – they have seasonal affect disorder, and need Prozac and a heat lamp.
Eli Lily, of course, are mixed up in the mind control issue according to Dr Colin Ross but that’s for another time. This company though is very much part of the whole global push of Them and it is not a great stretch of the imagination to see worldwide prescription of drugs to women, drugs which can control their behaviour.
Wing of Madness, Feb 08, 2009, which was written by a woman, has a few things to say on the issue and links “madness” to depression:
The reason or reasons why women have unipolar depression more frequently than men is less definite, due to a great extent to the fact that we don’t fully understand what causes depression, whether in men or women.
Several theories have been brought forward to explain the greater frequency of depression in women. There is no question that women have to deal with a greater number of risks to their physical and emotional well-being than men.
Women experience several major biological changes in their lives; onset of menstruation, pregnancy, postpartum and menopause. We also go through a hormonal metamorphosis every month. It’s likely, although not proven scientifically, that hormonal changes play a part in depression in women.
Girls entering puberty are twice as prone to depression as boys, and it is possible that this is due, at least in part, to the hormonal changes brought on by the onset of menstruation. However, there is a strong argument to be made that this is a time at which they are vulnerable to internal and external conflicts and pressures which would be more likely to contribute to depression than changing hormones.
Any woman who has had a man say to her, “You have PMS, don’t you?” in the middle of an argument can understand why some women are reluctant to have PMS and depression mentioned in the same sentence. However, completely discounting the possibility of a link between the two could do women on the whole a disservice.
Rape and Abuse
Women (and girls) are much more likely than men to be raped and physically or sexually abused. These experiences factor into many cases of depression. Low self-esteem, feelings of helplessness and self-blame are by-products of any form of abuse, and these can either cause or exacerbate depression.
Role in Society
Studies have shown that because of social conditioning, women have a lower sense of their own self-worth and competence than men do. This is often reinforced in the workplace in the form of lower pay and discrimination in hiring and promotion. Add to this the fact that women still do most of the housework and child-rearing, and you have not only problems with self-image, but also multiple stresses.
In the end, it comes down to definitions of madness and what we mean by them when we use them. In the opening anecdote in Part 1, it was clearly a case of getting upset, for which we use the term “getting mad” and then making that slide into “mad” as a clinical condition – a very dangerous slide, for how many have thereby been condemned?
If you dismiss getting angry as madness, then a great deal of women’s “madness” flies out the window.
On the other hand, as even women themselves have admitted, they’re up against it in so many ways, internally, in their minds and in the attitudes displayed towards them. Many become bitter, something Germaine Greer warned women about and when they become bitter, they become unpleasant and fulfil men’s very expectations of them.
I’d personally hate to be a woman but I’m told [by women] that it can be a very pleasant thing indeed. Not much any of us can do about it though. Alison, at Dirty Martini, said she hates women and hates being one, having to put up with not being able to do what the men do without prejudice, presumably.
What can men do?
I think we just have to accept what women are and learn to love them somehow. This is what chivalry is all about – that whatever they do or say, the man will remain a gentleman. But further than that, I can’t see why women can’t be taken as equal where they quite clearly are or as superior where they quite clearly are.
Why do men have hangups about that? A confident man will praise a child for his/her superiority in some ways. You know the Groucho Marxism – find me a child of four. Why won’t a confident man equally praise and acknowledge a woman?
The other side of the coin is that there is definitely something in a woman which is … let’s call it “brittle” … and this is very wearing on a man who doesn’t feel those stresses himself. And many of them misuse their position, together with the State, to screw men over.
‘Spose all men can do is try not to do those things Judith Alison pointed out in Part 1 and hope for the best.