A half page of random thoughts on December 25th

Simply stunned how quickly the year went, how time is whizzing past. I go down to the boat to do some work, get tied up in a small detail not cooperating and there it is – mid-afternoon already.

The upside of this is that there’s no time to sit and brood about things which never were, things which might have been. I’d not want there to be time for that anyway, for then a person starts contemplating negatively and that opens the door to self-pity which, if my life is seen on balance, is not justified overall.

You read, as I did, that this time sees more divorces and suicides than at any other time. It’s always amazed me that people come to the gates of the citadel [Christmas] but then refuse to go inside and so they start with the “woe is me, no one loves me, life’s not worth living”, when there is comfort awaiting them if they want it.

Not trying to be glib, to pass off real suffering as not being so … but equally, I see an older generation than mine grit the teeth and get on with it. Seems to me that, to mix metaphor after metaphor, there are two choices – self-pity [which can even be justified] and taking the bit between the teeth and getting on with it.

There’s also the point that it’s our choices which brought us where we are. My situation is currently dire but my choices got me here. Doesn’t make it better of course but what it does is reorder the mind, has it thinking along the right lines, lines which have a chance of getting out of a mess. No one’s going to arrange circumstances to suit us … so our only choice is to rearrange what we do to try to get around the circumstances.

I’d say to anyone contemplating separation, divorce or suicide – and I can’t see that being regular readers here who seem pretty well-adjusted – to hold off until early New Year, there are ways out of things, not so dramatic, more clearheaded – sometimes it only needs someone to listen.    Or do you want the drama in the first place, making that statement?

Just opened the prezzies

My two lady bosses [dominatrices?] had given me a package not to be opened till now – wow, the pic is just half of it.   One of the ladies, a CAMRA girl from way back, knew exactly the beer, the Scottish oat cookies, the cheeses … I supplied the red.

In an hour, I have a Skype with a gorgeous woman and guess what’s going to be on the TV table beside me through that?   Tear to the eye, seriously, at this moment.

Before:

festive cheer

After:

festive cheer 2

What was it again Tiny Tim said at the end of the tale? And isn’t this a wonderful country?

4 Responses to “A half page of random thoughts on December 25th”

  1. A K Haart December 25, 2013 at 14:09 Permalink

    “There’s also the point that it’s our choices which brought us where we are.”

    Too true for most of us – often conveniently forgotten. Merry Christmas and a happy New Year.

  2. wiggia December 25, 2013 at 14:49 Permalink

    Just to show how fallible we all are, just had our new neighbours round for a quick Christmas day drink.
    Clever clogs following his article on Prosecco had a couple of bottles at the ready, both were awful tasted of soap and god knows what else, both bottles down sink had to open something better and pretend it didn’t matter.
    Still I’m well prepared for later these things happen, the worst I had a few years back was three different wines on the trot were corked and went down the sink and a bottle of the wife’s Sherry followed and that is rare.
    Merry Christmas all.

  3. ubermouth December 25, 2013 at 15:11 Permalink

    I just got back from ‘up island’ working 2 weeks on the trot,so it’s nice to relax and just ‘be’ at Christmas.

  4. CherryPie December 25, 2013 at 22:27 Permalink

    Chilling out now after the visitors have left.

    Yes the year does seem to have flashed by in a blur!!

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