This is unscheduled, so it might ramble.
Sitting here this morning, I’m in a fair amount of pain down the right diode, as Marvin the Paranoid Android might say, and it’s impacting the heart and breathing. Amusing but not amusing you might also say.
Interesting that that has come along the moment the heart issue has been resolved by altering the medication, shan’t go into detail.
And I shan’t go into detail because of a philosophical stance of the ‘mustn’t grumble’ kind, ‘many worse off than me’ etc. Plus medical things have always been boring to me.
Plus it’s a survival thing – I cannot afford to succumb to self-pity as there is only me to look after myself [carer and patient in one] and I need to stay on top of it as I age. It terrifies me to be drawn into that whole NHS thing where every two days I go to the doctor with some new ailment, having been maybe three times in the past nine years.
Plus we are in a situation today where there are so many ‘invented’ syndromes, which dovetail with people excusing their behaviour by citing a syndrome. Which makes me not a nice person for mentioning it. There truly is so much self-excusing going on out there and that’s where my politics comes from – reacting against that. Plus I’ve always been harder on myself first.
Plus one of our ‘staff’, when I mentioned the NHS had told me I’m borderline diabetic, said there’s no such thing, it’s an invented syndrome. I don’t know, how can I know? The ‘medical conditions world’ is not one I’ve known much about for the past however many decades it’s been.
I think women are far more au fait [plus perhaps old men] because a woman, by definition, must have various plumbing things checked out more or less constantly. And as you see from that comment, it’s quite brusque and offputting. Maybe I’m borderline Asperger’s, who knows?
Plus there are many curmudgeonly readers here at N.O. and long may it continue.
The two ladies mentioned were addressing my attitude to Asperger’s. One, Cherie, you can see in previous comments, the other I’ll protect the identity of. Both said similar things about my attitude to Asperger’s but what is of interest is that they are from different, almost opposite, political/religious worlds. One is from the ‘love thy neighbour’ world, dare I say the ‘be nice, soft to others’ world and the other is more like most readers here … and me.
Yet both came to the same conclusion. To quote the unnamed lady:
I was disappointed to see you are not keen on Asperger’s as a diagnosis. It is far from anti-social behaviour, more a case of not being able to interact because of a lack of understanding of non-verbal communication including body language, etc.
I say to that – thank goodness for the blogging format, that this chance exists to get the issue out there for discussion. She goes on:
Do have a look at this story [below], it is interesting but not surprising as Tony Attwood would have been so wrapped up in his work that he was unable to identify his son’s problems until he looked at old videos and then the penny dropped!! The link about high functioning women being under-diagnosed is also very interesting.
The unforgiving nature of Deplorables
It may be that Asperger’s is genuine, it may be that it is partly rooted in excusing one’s behaviour, I don’t know, I shall read more on’t.
One thing which is levelled at us by the other side of public life is that we lack compassion. Are we all Asperger’s? Are all Deplorables Asperger’s sufferers? I’d say it’s more a case that there is a gut reaction to what’s going on out there [posts passim] and that if something is wrong, wrong, wrong, it’s seriously killing society, then it must be stopped.
So many see it [maybe 52% but the other side are still wallowing in PCism and can’t see what they’re doing, what they’re abetting. And yes, there can be much short shrift given by us … or appearing to be given … which is not to say there is no compassion on a personal level.
When I came back to Blighty in 2008, there were four people very supportive and of those, three were of the seemingly softer, kinder side [which was welcome and I’ll be eternally grateful during that difficult time] and one was a Deplorable so to speak. Then came in another so called Deplorable, co-opted by one of the kind people.
I’ll say this for the two Deplorables who shall remain unnamed – both physically put me up for a certain time at their place and both knew I’d try to get out of there and on my own two feet a.s.a.p. I’ve heard unkind things said about them but both actually did offer succour when needed, just as compassionately as the known ‘kind’ people.
Just as I would and have done in the past. And I’ll also add this – the two gentlemen who make N.O. and OoL possible are also what some would call ‘of the right’ in their views, quite brusque at times and yet they are the nicest people deep down. We have clashed in the past but by and large we’re fine.
The thing is though – we have this unfortunate manner which can appear callous and we tread on sacred cows and shibboleths [mixing metaphors unforgiv[e]ably], especially on the blog and especially when talking politics.
And that’s going to continue at 16:00 today, not at 13:30.
One does lose friends who cannot differentiate the personal manner one-on-one in RL from the public world of political commentating, who may have been personally affronted by my blunt words at some time. Those who’ve stuck around and not shunned me can obviously distinguish between the two and know I’m not an utter and complete bastard all the time [not that it worries me all that much to be seen as one but there are friends I do value and would not like to lose].
I’d also say there are things out there which some of us are charged to expose and take apart – humbug, sham, wrong things, lies – and if we stop doing that, then we’re abrogating our responsibilities. It matters not one jot how many read it, these things must be said and public life out there is slowly changing for the better, the PCists are not having it all their own way now.
But I fully heed what others have warned about – about becoming the very beasts we’re attacking, of becoming too hard-hearted. methinks we need to always guard against that in RL, in our personal dealings with people.
And that pain down the right diode seems to have partly eased, hence the length of this post. ‘Nuff for now.