Not a pleasant person?

This is unscheduled, so it might ramble.

Sitting here this morning, I’m in a fair amount of pain down the right diode, as Marvin the Paranoid Android might say, and it’s impacting the heart and breathing. Amusing but not amusing you might also say.

Interesting that that has come along the moment the heart issue has been resolved by altering the medication, shan’t go into detail.

And I shan’t go into detail because of a philosophical stance of the ‘mustn’t grumble’ kind, ‘many worse off than me’ etc. Plus medical things have always been boring to me.

Plus it’s a survival thing – I cannot afford to succumb to self-pity as there is only me to look after myself [carer and patient in one] and I need to stay on top of it as I age. It terrifies me to be drawn into that whole NHS thing where every two days I go to the doctor with some new ailment, having been maybe three times in the past nine years.

Plus we are in a situation today where there are so many ‘invented’ syndromes, which dovetail with people excusing their behaviour by citing a syndrome. Which makes me not a nice person for mentioning it. There truly is so much self-excusing going on out there and that’s where my politics comes from – reacting against that. Plus I’ve always been harder on myself first.

Plus one of our ‘staff’, when I mentioned the NHS had told me I’m borderline diabetic, said there’s no such thing, it’s an invented syndrome. I don’t know, how can I know? The ‘medical conditions world’ is not one I’ve known much about for the past however many decades it’s been.

I think women are far more au fait [plus perhaps old men] because a woman, by definition, must have various plumbing things checked out more or less constantly. And as you see from that comment, it’s quite brusque and offputting. Maybe I’m borderline Asperger’s, who knows?

Plus there are many curmudgeonly readers here at N.O. and long may it continue.

The two ladies mentioned were addressing my attitude to Asperger’s. One, Cherie, you can see in previous comments, the other I’ll protect the identity of. Both said similar things about my attitude to Asperger’s but what is of interest is that they are from different, almost opposite, political/religious worlds. One is from the ‘love thy neighbour’ world, dare I say the ‘be nice, soft to others’ world and the other is more like most readers here … and me.

Yet both came to the same conclusion. To quote the unnamed lady:

I was disappointed to see you are not keen on Asperger’s as a diagnosis. It is far from anti-social behaviour, more a case of not being able to interact because of a lack of understanding of non-verbal communication including body language, etc.

I say to that – thank goodness for the blogging format, that this chance exists to get the issue out there for discussion. She goes on:

Do have a look at this story [below], it is interesting but not surprising as Tony Attwood would have been so wrapped up in his work that he was unable to identify his son’s problems until he looked at old videos and then the penny dropped!! The link about high functioning women being under-diagnosed is also very interesting.

The unforgiving nature of Deplorables

It may be that Asperger’s is genuine, it may be that it is partly rooted in excusing one’s behaviour, I don’t know, I shall read more on’t.

One thing which is levelled at us by the other side of public life is that we lack compassion. Are we all Asperger’s? Are all Deplorables Asperger’s sufferers? I’d say it’s more a case that there is a gut reaction to what’s going on out there [posts passim] and that if something is wrong, wrong, wrong, it’s seriously killing society, then it must be stopped.

So many see it [maybe 52% but the other side are still wallowing in PCism and can’t see what they’re doing, what they’re abetting. And yes, there can be much short shrift given by us … or appearing to be given … which is not to say there is no compassion on a personal level.

When I came back to Blighty in 2008, there were four people very supportive and of those, three were of the seemingly softer, kinder side [which was welcome and I’ll be eternally grateful during that difficult time] and one was a Deplorable so to speak. Then came in another so called Deplorable, co-opted by one of the kind people.

I’ll say this for the two Deplorables who shall remain unnamed – both physically put me up for a certain time at their place and both knew I’d try to get out of there and on my own two feet a.s.a.p. I’ve heard unkind things said about them but both actually did offer succour when needed, just as compassionately as the known ‘kind’ people.

Just as I would and have done in the past. And I’ll also add this – the two gentlemen who make N.O. and OoL possible are also what some would call ‘of the right’ in their views, quite brusque at times and yet they are the nicest people deep down. We have clashed in the past but by and large we’re fine.

The thing is though – we have this unfortunate manner which can appear callous and we tread on sacred cows and shibboleths [mixing metaphors unforgiv[e]ably], especially on the blog and especially when talking politics.

And that’s going to continue at 16:00 today, not at 13:30.

One does lose friends who cannot differentiate the personal manner one-on-one in RL from the public world of political commentating, who may have been personally affronted by my blunt words at some time. Those who’ve stuck around and not shunned me can obviously distinguish between the two and know I’m not an utter and complete bastard all the time [not that it worries me all that much to be seen as one but there are friends I do value and would not like to lose].

I’d also say there are things out there which some of us are charged to expose and take apart – humbug, sham, wrong things, lies – and if we stop doing that, then we’re abrogating our responsibilities. It matters not one jot how many read it, these things must be said and public life out there is slowly changing for the better, the PCists are not having it all their own way now.

But I fully heed what others have warned about – about becoming the very beasts we’re attacking, of becoming too hard-hearted. methinks we need to always guard against that in RL, in our personal dealings with people.

And that pain down the right diode seems to have partly eased, hence the length of this post. ‘Nuff for now.

29 comments for “Not a pleasant person?

  1. October 21, 2017 at 11:51

    James, for some, such as you and I, angst is in our DNA. Long may it remain to shine some light on the might of the arrogant, self centered Establishment brutal fools and their subjugated followers!

  2. dearieme
    October 21, 2017 at 11:57

    At least the type II diabetes thing – “pre-diabetes”, for heaven’s sake – is fairly easy to treat. Experiment with displacing carbs from your diet and eating more fat and protein in their place. So, goodbye to so much tattie, bread, pasta, rice, polenta, porridge, bikkies and whatnot, and hello to more of whatever fatty food you can afford.

    I’ve started by replacing my breakfast cereal and toast-&-marmalade by a continental brekkie of ham or chorizo or salami, and cheese. So far Wensleydale has been the best cheese, with feta as runner up. The Dutch cheeses I’ve tried have varied from just about OK to dismal. The best meat has been Speck from the Co-op, with Sainsbury’s chorizo and salami in their “continental” package with Gouda as the runner up. Maybe I should forget about the continental meats and go straight for half a thin-crust pork pie, the rest being kept for the next day. Or maybe try more egg at breakfast? (P.S. Why can you often buy large eggs more cheaply than medium? Damned if I know.) Or bring back kipper?

    Or perhaps reverse the day’s meals, and start with a hearty dish such as liver, bacon and onions? But who has time for much cooking first thing?

    • October 21, 2017 at 13:01

      You’ve hit it exactly. This is exactly what I must do between Thursday’s and Monday’s shopping.

      And uncannily again, that’s precisely what I’ve started buying in – Wensleydale. Plus started eggs again.

      • October 21, 2017 at 21:22

        Probably a good Idea to limit the carbs. Best source of slow-to-absorb carbs is beans, lentils, chick peas and similar. Next best is proper pasta made with hard wheat and cooked al dente. Bread not so good, but less bad if wholegrain.

    • Distant Relative
      October 21, 2017 at 14:05

      What dearieme said.

      Breakfast chez nous is a fried egg, streaky bacon, a cereal/rusk free sausage and either mushrooms fried in butter or a tomato fried in the bacon fat. Or a cream cheese pancake with berries and whipped cream. Or FULL FAT yogurt and “Banting Granola”. Or a bacon butty made with “Banting Bread” which was surprisingly very good. Who is/was “Banting” I hear you ask? Actually, he was an undertaker, but moving swiftly on

      Recently purchased the “Pocket Guide to Banting” by Prof Tim Noakes and others. Best buy, book-wise, in a long time.

      Avoid like the plague anything labelled “low-fat”. Also ditch the sugar. Add copious amounts of cruciferous veggies laden with butter of course. Downside is saying goodbye to chips, even if they are cooked in duck-fat 🙁 And pizza…. but we’re working on that…. 🙂 Dinner tonight is sausage casserole with sage and onions.

      [Might be able to twist someone’s arm to provide the recipe for the Granola and Bread, if required.]

      Live long and prosper.

    • October 21, 2017 at 21:23

      Watch out for fat and nasty chemical content of processed mests

      • October 22, 2017 at 07:56


        • Distant Relative
          October 22, 2017 at 12:39

          Good point. Not all fats are human-friendly.

          On the OK list are:
          Beef tallow, butter, chicken fat, duck fat, ghee, lard and mutton tallow, almond oil, avocado oil, coconut oil, cod liver oil, macadamia oil, olive oil, tahini/sesame seed oil and cocoa butter.

          On the avoid list:
          Block margarine, other margarine, oils from canola/colza/rapeseed, corn, cottonseed, grapeseed, all hydrogenated or part hydrogenated, peanut, safflower, soybean and sunflower. Any processed foods containing any of those as well to be avoided such as shop bought mayo and sauces.

  3. October 21, 2017 at 12:56

    Borderline diabetic for sure exists. Diabetes I
    s not an on/off thing. Your processing of insulin and sugar degrades slowly over time. Thresholds are set at which you are proclaimed diabetic but you can approach them and depass them too.

  4. dearieme
    October 21, 2017 at 14:53

    I like Chinese tuck. I can avoid the rice if I go for Crispy Aromatic Duck: the amount of carbs in a flimsy pancake must be about zero, and cucumber and sybies are probably top nosh. Sorry, nutritionally rich and diverse.

    What else? One of the dishes heavy in bean sprouts and stir-fried veg, I suppose. Pity; egg-fried rice is awfully good and onion-fried rice sublime.

  5. October 21, 2017 at 15:14

    Shall follow this henceforth.

    Or FULL FAT yogurt and “Banting Granola”.

    Exactly what I had yesterday and will today later. Currently preparing Thai chicken and [sorry] the last of the brown rice.

  6. dearieme
    October 21, 2017 at 15:15

    ‘Avoid like the plague anything labelled “low-fat”. Also ditch the sugar.’

    Yes. Probably need to gang canny on beer and wine too. My limit is one drink a day. I’ve just tried a 0.5% alcohol beer called Nanny State – bought at Sainsbury’s. Much the best I’ve tried. I plan to drink it 50:50 with real beer, so I’ll get much of the pleasure of 660 ml with the alcohol of 330 ml. I’ve never had a palatable low alcohol wine, though naturally lowish alcohol Moselle Rieslings can be delish, especially if you can avoid the ones that are too sweet. In hot weather I’d expect to drink spritzer if I wanted a lot of winey pleasure.

    • Distant Relative
      October 21, 2017 at 15:46

      Aye. I’ve just blown it with a half a glass of Normandy cidre. Got red wine to use up with dinner. Ah well, tomorrow is another day. Low alcohol beer or wine – no ta! I’d probably get lynched in the supermarket over here! Sacre bleu!

      Also need to read labels on chorizo and salami. Some of ’em contain sugar, even organic ones. Some sausages do to. It is surprising where they slip the pure white poison.

      Indian is my weakness. Apart from the rice and the nan and the poppadum and the Bombay potatoes 🙁 the rest of my faves are cooked in ghee and are up there with the good stuff. Same with Thai – coconut being the elixir of life…. 🙂

  7. dearieme
    October 21, 2017 at 15:29

    To continue the food porn: a favourite winter dish is cauliflower cheese, the cheese sauce being laden with (fried) smoked streaky bacon and hard-boiled eggs.

    And a Polish winter dish, bigos, a stew of meats (for us usually Polish sausages) with sauerkraut, fresh cabbage and a bit of beer.

    My solution to the chip problem is to eat chips only if they are very good. Since we live in southern England that challenge isn’t met often. I treat crisps as OK since the ratio of fat to tattie is probably pretty healthy.

  8. dearieme
    October 21, 2017 at 15:39

    And another thing: oily/fatty fish.

    (i) Smoked salmon seems to be much cheaper than it used to be and is still delicious. Goes well with scrambled egg or Cream Cheese.

    (ii) If you look carefully you can find tins of sardines with lemon. Lovely.

    (iii) Mackerel pate: most of the supermarkets’ stuff tastes good, but I’m careful not to read the ingredients in case there’s too much bread in it. 🙂

  9. dearieme
    October 21, 2017 at 15:46

    A possible problem is that I have no intention of entirely eschewing boiled potatoes, roast potatoes, bread, oats, and so forth. My solution will be to eat less of them, and less often. Whether this will work I don’t know.

    I think not eating biscuits will prove easy.

  10. October 21, 2017 at 15:52

    Not eating biscuits is a major issue for me.

    • Distant Relative
      October 21, 2017 at 15:59

      “Not eating biscuits is a major issue for me.”

      If you eat ’em because you’re hungry then increasing your fat intake with your meals will resolve that eventually. If it’s because you are a biscuit junky then pretend it is Lent. 🙂

      Nuts. Have them instead. Especially Macadamia 🙂

      We have taken to eating more sweet potatoes, mashed or baked – they’re allowed.

      • October 21, 2017 at 16:04

        Tried them – can’t eat ’em.

        • Distant Relative
          October 21, 2017 at 16:17

          Nuts and teeth?

          Just consulted the book “If you’re snacking because you’re hungry, then you clearly did not eat enough at your last meal or you ate the wrong foods…..(like carbs).” Prof. T. Noakes

          • October 21, 2017 at 21:17

            That’s probably a good conclusion.

          • October 21, 2017 at 21:26

            But better to hang on until your next meal and make sure it’s a good filling and balanced one.

  11. dearieme
    October 21, 2017 at 16:12

    My meat/cheese brekkie has eliminated a tendency to have a biscuit mid-morning.

    When I have muesli – only an occasional treat now – I add toasted coconut and dried apricots to my oats and oat bran.

    Thanks for the tip on the kumara.

  12. October 21, 2017 at 21:30

    Regular exercise is an excellent weapon. Get a bike and use it for short journeys. Or walk. Change lifestyle so exercise is part of a daily routine that you enjoy.

    I tried the gym and it only works for a while. I get bored. But ride the bike to go shopping – no problem.

  13. woodsy42
    October 21, 2017 at 23:13

    Interesting how often this blog of yours hits things in my own life.
    I went through various heart stuff about 15 years ago, got some stents inserted, which worked, but ended up with constant pain in the diodes almost immediately afterwards. In my case the leg ankle and foot diodes, making walking painful. After a few years the doc decided my cholesterol was still too high and upped the statin dose whereupon the ‘pain’ became a raging tempest of acute agony. In those days statins were assumed to have no side effects but I stopped them anyway and it got better (but never went away).
    Of course with the heart condition I get regular check-ups and diabetes is the most recent condition I have apparently fallen victim to. So for the past summer it’s been a diet of no sugar and virtually no carbs. Basically what Dearieme suggests here (but oats are OK I think). I have lost almost 2 stone (without being hungry) and an upcoming blood test will tell if I have done any good for the blood chemistry. Oddly my previous biscuit addiction has cured itself, they are much too sweet for my retrained taste buds. Ryvita and a layer of pate works though! I can also recommend Sainsbury’s pre-cut crinkle chip shaped butternut squash pieces – no they are not chips but oven cooked in a trace of oil they are a tasty alternative.
    BTW James, I don’t think curmudgeosity is yet recognised as a medical condition, it undoubtably will be one day because it acts against the smooth running of society. Like you I think mild Asbergers and borderline diabetes along with other ‘conditions’ simply represent the wide range of normality. They can of course be extreme and serious in some cases – they are real enough. But most modern diagnoses of ‘conditions’ seem to be more of defining a personality type – but of course one that doesn’t fit into the required niche of production unit and consumer in modern society so it’s an illness. Borderline diabetes II is surely stuff ageing and becoming less efficient, although bad diet may be a factor and need work to reverse the ill effects. But once we are all defined as ill the population is much easier to control.

  14. October 22, 2017 at 01:04

    “One, Cherie, you can see in previous comments, the other I’ll protect the identity of. Both said similar things about my attitude to Asperger’s but what is of interest is that they are from different, almost opposite, political/religious worlds. One is from the ‘love thy neighbour’ world, dare I say the ‘be nice, soft to others’ world and the other is more like most readers here”

    Oh dear you still don’t understand me or my thoughts. I am not political or religious, however I follow the teachings of Jesus. My thinking and the basis of my thoughts are founded on the teachings of Jesus, mainly from the New Testament but also echoed in the Old Testament. Understanding the relationship between the two is quite inspirational.

    My thinking is also based on spiritual experiences that I have experienced over the years.

    I am not always soft towards others, I can be quite hard, I do not suffer fools gladly. Sometimes I choose to remain quiet because not everyone is open to my points of view. There is no point getting into what would become an argument with others that do not have an open mind to be able to discuss other perspectives in a rational manner.

    Healthwise for you… I would recommend positive thoughts (my recommendation is linked into my thoughts above)

  15. October 22, 2017 at 03:35

    Cheers all.

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